Writing a sympathy card is much like writing a letter, except that it’s for someone else. You want to be sincere and honest in your message but also respectful of the person who you’re writing about. If you do this right, it can be an incredibly touching experience for both parties involved in the process. So how can you go about crafting that perfect condolence note? Here are some tips:

Be sincere.

The most important thing when writing a sympathy card is sincerity. If you’re not sincere, your readers won’t be either.

You should try to avoid using the sympathy card as an opportunity for revenge or an excuse for saying something that you’ll later regret. In other words: don’t use it as therapy!

It’s okay to get it wrong.

When you’re writing a sympathy card, it can be tempting to try and be perfect. You might want to work on the best of the best sympathy messages that look like real feelings flowing from your end. The truth is, however, that you don’t need to worry about it. You’re not being judged as much as you might think—and if someone does read your words and judge them for any reason (or no reason at all), that person has probably never been in your shoes either.

Also, remember: no one wants sympathy cards! You’re doing them a favor by sending one out, so don’t feel bad if you write something funny or weird or even downright wrong. It’s okay! Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about this part of life because eventually, everyone will move on from their grief/sadness, and things will get better again…unless they have cancer which sucks big time so please pray for them too.

Listen to your thoughts and feelings.

When writing a sympathy card, it’s important to listen to your thoughts and feelings. Don’t be afraid to express them! You’ll feel better if you do.

Use someone else’s write-ups wisely before wordsmithing your own.

You can use a template, or you can write your own. Whatever works for you!

But before we get into the nitty-gritty of how to make sure that your sympathy card comes off as professional, let’s talk about some ways of taking advantage of other people’s work in order to save time and energy on your end.

Writing a sympathy card isn’t easy, but it can be done with care and attention to the person who the card is for.

Writing a sympathy card can be difficult, but it’s not impossible. In fact, it’s actually quite simple to do right if you follow these tips:

  • Be sincere and thoughtful in your words.
  • Listen to your thoughts and feelings before writing anything down (even if you don’t think about them at all).
  • Try not to use “you” statements when describing the person who sent the sympathy card; instead, use their name or nickname whenever possible instead of saying “you.” This will make it seem more personal than just saying “your” or “his/her” or any other pronoun that doesn’t truly fit this particular situation!


We hope that this article has helped you understand the process of writing a sympathy card better.